Sun 23 Feb 2003
Eighty-One Guys, All Of Them That Guy
Posted by linda.holmes under Journal entries, Noteworthy
Alli: You know, it has just occurred to me that we use That Guy differently. Your That Guy is a particular guy, whereas I stole that expression from a friend who uses it to describe any guy who fits his type particularly well. Like he would say, “He wears his hat backwards and goes ‘Wooo!’ because he’s That Guy,” but also “He wears a tux even when he doesn’t have to, because he’s That Guy.”
Sars: I think our use of That Guy is the same even if the Thatness covered by the Guy is different. My That Guy is pretty broad — mostly it’s that Wall Street gel-monkey type who has never had a female platonic friend in his life and doesn’t read.
Alli: Uch. Another reason to stay in the Midwest.
Sars: God, no kidding. But whenever a guy whom you initially think is cool winds up being the same kind of emotionally impacted schmuck you thought you’d dodged this time, there’s also the “ohhhhh NO . . . he’s THAT guy” locution.
Alli: Totally. I’ve gotten to the point where I almost never use it at all without that twinge of regret. “Are you That Guy? God, don’t be That Guy.”
Sars: And you think it even as they’re circling the drain.
Alli: Exactly. And it’s all just so unoriginal. I would at least like someone to come up with a new way of sucking. I’ve seriously had it with the quasi-dark-souled quasi-artistic Black Turtleneck Slacker, the Gore-Tex Vegetarian With Bicycle, the reigning King of Irony with his collection of Kool-Aid memorabilia, the balding (Swears He’s Not The Boring Kind Of) Computer Guy, the politically plugged-in Walking Necktie, and especially the Smirking Self-Professed Feisty-Girl-Liker who is secretly afraid of every woman except his mom.
Sars: Oh, man. And let’s not forget I’m Sensitive But Only So That I Can Get Laid Guy, I’m Truly Sensitive And Have No Balls As A Result Guy, Told He Was Cute Too Many Times In High School Guy, I Know Fuck-All About Your Internet Business Because I Read Forbes Once A Year Ago Guy, and What Do You Mean, You “Haven’t Seen” Koyaanisqatsi?? Guy.
Alli: Wait a minute, you took shit for not having seen Koyaanisqatsi?
Sars: I’m saying.
Alli: That’s really wrong.
Sars: I also forgot Defensive About Not Finishing College Guy.
Alli: Well, be glad you live in the wrong part of the country for Yes, In Fact I Did Kill That Myself Guy.
Sars: Ew.
Alli: But honestly, I’d take him over any member of the category of Self-Consciously Offbeat Guy. Like Guy Who Prefers Fat Elvis, Guy Who Thinks The Best Woody Allen Movie Was Small Time Crooks, and Guy Who Thinks O.J. Might Be Innocent.
Sars: Is there a guy who prefers Fat Elvis?
Alli: Yes. See how offbeat he is?
Sars: Please.
Alli: Oh, believe it. He’s no slave to culture’s whims. And actually, in that sense, he’s related to Oh, I Don’t Watch TV Guy.
Sars: Doesn’t Watch TV Guy sucks.
Alli: As does his equally pretentious friend Oh, I Only Watch HBO Dramas Guy. Who is actually I Swear To God I Only Watch HBO Dramas Guy — as in, “I don’t know why my TiVo keeps suggesting things on Animal Planet, because I Swear To God I Only Watch HBO Dramas.”
Sars: And you know he watches Animal Detectives.
Alli: Hee. Totally. On the other hand, all viewing habits can be trouble. I’m no fan of The Rise Of Chandler Made Me Hopeful That I Might One Day Have Sex Again Guy, or Constantly Trying To Recreate The Costner Bull Durham Speech Guy.
Sars: Those guys all grate. So does I’ll Pick A Fight With You Because Girls Love That Guy. But in the disappointments department, there’s none more crushing than Appears Normal, But Then Says Really Gooey Things While Kissing You That Make You Squirm In Embarrassment For Him Guy.
Alli: I’m actually squirming in embarrassment for him right now.
Sars: And when you’re kissing him? MUCH WORSE.
Alli: Ouch. But at least you can feel sorry for Gooey Kissing Remarks Guy, unlike the contempt you have to feel for, say, Unsuccessful Attempts At Growing Facial Hair Guy.
Sars: Like it’s a skill.
Alli: And don’t even get me started on Talks To His Ex On His Cell Phone Four Times A Day Guy. Oh, and Have I Casually Mentioned My SAT Scores Guy. Ooh, I hate that guy.
Sars: And let’s not forget Well, We Haven’t Gotten Around To Getting A Divorce Guy.
Alli: But hey, it’s only a matter of time, he swears. And in the meantime, Not-Yet-Divorced Guy passes the time having drinks with Maybe If We Just Get It Out Of Our Systems We Can Both Return To Monogamy Unscathed Guy.
Sars: It’s nice, the way he tries to help.
Alli: And they play racquetball with The Many Chicks Who Dig My Irresistible Ass Make Up My Crown Of Thorns Guy.
Sars: Oh, no, it’s all rugby nowadays. They play rugby with I Do The Outdoorsy Thing Because It Prevents Me From Sobbing Like A Little Girl About My Hairline Guy.
Alli: Who isn’t fooling anyone.
Sars: No. And also at the rugby game? You’d Better Like My Friends Because You’ll Never See Me Without Them Guy.
Alli: And after rugby, it’s off to visit the one guy they couldn’t get to come out with them — I Don’t Quite Live With My Parents But I Have All Their Old Furniture Guy, who slept in through the rugby game while his roommate, Gets All His Current Events Information From Watching Fox News While Eating Froot Loops Guy, kicked back in the living room.
Sars: Right next to I Can’t Have Conversations With People Who Don’t Smoke Pot Guy, who’s fixing his bong with pieces of a broken stereo.
Alli: And he’s the younger brother of Repeats But Does Not Comprehend Or Accurately Attribute Deep Thoughts Guy, whose acoustic guitar case says “I DON’T BELIEVE IN BEATLES, I JUST BELIEVE IN ME — FERRIS BUELLER.”
Sars: A close relative of Surely You Don’t Listen To The Corporate Schlock Masquerading As Pop Music These Days You’re Such A Sheep Of Convention Guy.
Alli: Who has no friends.
Sars: But is a close spiritual brother to Tolerate My Obscure and Painful Jazz Collection Guy.
Alli: Oh, and he hangs out at Whole Foods with the Four Horsemen of the Capitalist Apocalypse: I Can Taste The Tears Of The Downtrodden In Every Cup Of Starbucks Coffee Guy, Can’t Read Anything Purchased At A Non-Unionized Bookstore Guy, Guy With A Strange Preoccupation With Trash-Talking Pottery Barn, and Guy Who Thinks The Biggest Problem Facing Today’s Progressive Is Browser Compatibility.
Sars: He’s fighting the real enemy.
Alli: By cleaving to Netscape 4.7.
Sars: Yeah, That Guy. I Am An Endless Series Of Lectures On Organic Produce And The Pharmaceutical Cartel Guy. Also may manifest as What’s Funny About Hemp Clothing? Guy.
Alli: Exactly. And he has no idea that he is actually just as boring as his arch-nemesis, Just Let Me Take This Emergency Conference Call On My Cell Phone Headset While I’m Buying A Sesame Seed Bagel Guy.
Sars: Who is often confused with, but does not share entirely the same genetic coding as, I Incorporate Lines From Wall Street Into My Everyday Speech With No Irony Whatsoever Guy.
Alli: Who is, in turn, often mistaken for Can’t Order A Drink Without Consulting Esquire To See Whether Martinis Are Still Cool This Week Guy.
Sars: ARGH! I cannot abide that guy. And he’s always friends with No, He Likes You, He Just Doesn’t, Um, Talk Much Guy, who usually turns out to be Bitter, Jaded, Bad Poet Who Thinks “Kissing” Means “Drenching A Woman’s Jaw In Saliva” Guy.
Alli: And it’s not like he offers you a towel.
Sars: Of course not. And now, let’s all wave to Has No Sense Of Humor About Getting Salsa On His Pants Guy.
Alli: How can you have no sense of humor about that? It’s salsa! It’s your pants!
Sars: And yet he’s unamused.
Alli: That seems impossible.
Regina: And let’s rip a page out of our books for I’m An Asshole And Therefore It Gives Me A Right To ACT Like An Asshole Guy, shall we?
Sars: Oh, hey!
Alli: I’m so glad you’re here. And just in time to call out I’m An Asshole Guy.
Regina: Well, and that I’m An Asshole Guy is not to be confused with I’m An Asshole Who Doesn’t Deserve Love Except I So Do Because I Really Just Need The Right Woman To Redeem Me But You Are SO Not That Woman Guy.
Alli: All the I Declare My Asshole-ness As A Self-Defense Guys can go die. What are they, going through customs? “Anything to declare?” “Why yes, I’m an asshole.”
Sars: “Oh, well, thank you for letting us know. Have a lovely visit.”
Alli: In fact, they can die right next to unhumored salsa-pants, who also is usually I Turn Into A Really Angry Drunk After Half A Beer Guy. He’s all, “What the fuck are you laughin’ at? My fuckin’ pants are not fuckin’ funny! I can’t fuckin’ put these in the fuckin’ washer! They’re going to have to be fuckin’ dry cleaned! Where’s the rest of my fuckin’ beer?”
Sars: Ooh, and you know who I forgot earlier? Acts Really Normal About Your Breakup At The Time, Then Holds It Over You For The Rest Of Your Natural Goddamn Lives Guy. And of course, everyone’s favorite, You Don’t Respond To My Crappy Pickup Lines, So You Must Be One Of Those Lesbians Guy.
Alli: Aaaand I’ll throw in Much-Too-Late Confession Of Past Love That Only Appeared To Be Complete Boredom Guy, Wouldn’t You Like To Stay On As My Emergency Backup Girl While I Date A Series Of Obviously Unsuitable Women Guy, and my personal favorite, I Only Tell You How Much You Suck For Your Own Good Guy.
Regina: He sucks. And I don’t at all say that for his own good.
Alli: And no matter how much those guys suck on a much more profound level, I still have plenty of energy left to hate Unreasonably Competitive About The Company Softball League Guy. And that’s not even mentioning the lowest of the low, Always Blames The Receptionist Guy.
Sars: Oh, he is low. I Work In The Film Industry (Read: I Load Film) Guy is nearly as low.
Alli: And he doesn’t even make as much money as most of the rest of the members of the general grouping of Meaningless Job Title Guys. Like Associate Project Manager Guy, Associate Team Leader Guy, Technical Analyst II Guy, and Operations Assistant Guy. They all wear Dockers, and no one knows what they do.
Sars: They lead the team!
Alli: They assist the operations!
Sars: They associate with the people who manage the projects!
Regina: Yes, but they’re nothing compared to I Am Writing The Great American Novel So You Can Get The Check Guy or I’m A Bike Messenger Because I Like The Freedom It Offers And Not Because I’m A College Dropout With No Other Skills Unless You Count Reloading The Bong While Blindfolded Guy.
Alli: Ah, yes. Nobly representing all members of the Holy Brotherhood of Not Selling Out To The Man, including but not limited to Plans To Make His Living Selling The Contents Of His Closet On Ebay Guy, Thinks You’re “Even” If You Pay For Dinner And He Brings You A Colorful Street Pebble Guy, Has A BS (And I Do Mean BS) From The University Of Life Guy, and other Guys Whose Parents Should Obviously Have Forced Them To Work In Food Service Or Retail.
Sars: Fucking Street Pebble Guy. Only It’s Your Pets Or Me Guy is more loathed.
Alli: There are guys who think you’re going to give up the cats?
Sars: I told you he was loathed. Him, and I Can’t Rinse A Goddamn Dish At Your House, But If You Put A Beer Down On My Crappy IKEA Coffee Table, I’ll Screech Like A Girl At You About Not Leaving A Ring On It, And By The Way, I’m Out Of Socks, Honey Guy.
Alli: And IKEA Coffee Table Guy barely remembers that only two years earlier, he was There’s Only One Place To Sit In My Apartment And I Sit There Because It Faces The Playstation, So Make Yourself Comfortable On That Plastic Crate With The Folded Blanket On It Guy.
Regina: Oh, wait. Is he the same as Hey Why Don’t I Make You Dinner, Oh Wait The Only Things In The Fridge Are An Opened Can Of Schlitz And Half An Egg Roll That My Last Girlfriend Left Here When She Told Me To Go Fuck Myself, So Why Don’t We Just Run Down To Taco Burrito Palace #2 And Pick Up Some Nachos To Go Or Something Guy? Because he sounds vaguely familiar.
Sars: Yeah, that’s him. On Opposite Day he takes the guise of I Went To Italy On My Parents’ Credit Card For Two Weeks, And Now I’m A Fascist About Olive Oil And Can’t Consider Funyuns A “Valid” Snack, Even Ironically Guy.
Regina: Hee, Opposite Day.
Alli: Snacks are a double-edged sword, though. I’m not crazy about I Eat Circus Peanuts And Pez For Lunch Because It Gives Me A Sense Of Whimsy Guy either.
Sars: He’s eating circus peanuts. Nobody is excited about that guy except the Brach’s Corporation, and even they’re like, “We have to keep making these things? What is WITH That Guy?” On the other hand, he’s better than I Just Want To Be As Honest As I Can Guy.
Alli: Oh, but how can you be mad at him? He Just Wants To Be As Honest As He Can! It’s not his fault! Nothing is his fault! He’s just being honest! He’s just Every Dickhead Thing I Say Is Okay As Long As It Comes From The Heart Guy! Who, despite � or perhaps because of � his claims of straightforwardness, shares half his DNA with I Don’t Know Where You Got The Impression That I Really Liked You When All I Did Was Tell You I Really Liked You Guy.
Sars: And both of them are forms of I Don’t Know The Difference Between “Honesty” And “Tactlessness” Guy. Soul brothers of Don’t Fence Me In Guy and I Have To Be True To My Nature, Which Is A Lot Like James Dean Except I’m Not A Fag, Okay? Guy.
Alli: Not James Dean Guy shoots pool with Have You Ever Really Listened To Dennis Hopper? Because He Speaks All Kinds Of Truth Guy. And neither of them can shoot pool, like, at all.
Sars: Ah, yes. Roommates with You Can’t Go Home, You’re Such A Lightweight Guy.
Alli: Heh. I take it back. Not all your That Guys are the same guy.
Sars: No. Nor do they represent all guys.
Alli: Of course not. It’s mostly the ones who are totally not genuine. Or interesting.
Sars: Well, or who treat you like some kind of irrational swirl of nonsensical behaviors. Just don’t do that, That Guy.
Alli: And we’ll get along fine.
Sars: Well, mostly fine.
Alli: Usually fine.
Regina: But don’t feed me the half-eaten egg roll.
Alli: And step away from the cell phone headset.
Sars: And if you get salsa on your pants, IT’S FUNNY.
February 23rd, 2003 at 11:04 pm
I see you have been dating the same men I have, except for the gay hybred: I’m out, but please don’t tell anyone I’m gay. And the opposite of that, the I’m So Gay I Scare Harvey Firestein guy.
Nice new site.
February 24th, 2003 at 2:49 am
Full ON! I dated one guy who was at least five of those guys.
February 24th, 2003 at 11:18 am
The brilliance of this paragraph: “I’ve seriously had it with the quasi-dark-souled quasi-artistic Black Turtleneck Slacker, the Gore-Tex Vegetarian With Bicycle, the reigning King of Irony with his collection of Kool-Aid memorabilia, the balding (Swears He’s Not The Boring Kind Of) Computer Guy, the politically plugged-in Walking Necktie, and especially the Smirking Self-Professed Feisty-Girl-Liker who is secretly afraid of every woman except his mom” was enough to literally BLIND ME with tears of pain and joy.
Long may you reign and That Girl Who Has Met That Guy Too Many Times.
February 24th, 2003 at 11:38 am
Oh god, how to post a comment saying I, a guy, thought this was hilarious, withouting coming off as Oh, No, I’m SOOO Not Any of Those That Guys And Not Because I’m Too Blind To See Myself In Any Of Those Descriptions Guy?
February 24th, 2003 at 12:43 pm
Brilliant. I always seem to get My Ex Screwed Me Over and Since You’re Also Female I Can Take it Out on You Guy. That, or his brother, I’ve Been Burned By Love So Stay Away But Please Shag Me First Guy.
February 24th, 2003 at 2:25 pm
The sad thing here is that we sound like such haters, but we really aren’t. (Well, not to speak for Alli and Reg or anything. Heh.) Most of the guys I know are most emphatically not That Guy. But That Guy is really fun to bust on.
February 24th, 2003 at 2:40 pm
No, that’s totally true. A statistically significant majority of my friends are guys, and they’re excellent, and I love them. They do not appear anywhere in the Field Guide To That Guy. In fact, most of them hate That Guy just as much as I do.
February 24th, 2003 at 2:49 pm
But, y’all. Even the ones that are That Great Guy have been That Other Guy. Even my husband, for example, God bless him every day, was Once Bitten, Twice Shy, Let’s Have A Conversation About Not Getting Too Serious, Even Though You Haven’t Indicated That You Want To, Either, Guy.
And who is more hateful that that?
Guy: Let’s not get too serious, too fast.
Me: Great idea. I agree.
Guy: Because, you’re great and everything, but who knows where this is going?
Me: Didn’t I just say…
Guy: I really like you, but I’ve been hurt before and I just don’t know where I’ll be in six months or a year…
Me: Did I stutter… because I am saying I agree…
Guy: You’re being really great about this.
Me: You’re being That Guy.
February 24th, 2003 at 5:58 pm
Wow, did you guys date ALL my ex-boyfriends? Actually, in college, I majored in the The Band Has To Be My First Priority, So Instead Of Going Out To Dinner Why Don’t You Come Watch Us Jam Guy. Oh, That Guy! I never had the heart to tell him how much his band truly, truly sucked.
February 24th, 2003 at 11:07 pm
The first guy I went out with after I posted an internet personal ad was I Only Watch HBO Dramas Guy. He actually sneered at me for watching Joe Millionaire. Needless to say, there was no second date.
February 25th, 2003 at 1:08 pm
Hilarious. I love you guys. Incidentally, right now I’m sorta-seeing one of those I Declare My Asshole-ness As A Self-Defense guys, so I can relate. He’s not quite as bad as THAT guy though, thankfully.
February 25th, 2003 at 2:53 pm
In Texas, I Killed This Myself Guy is replaced with I Won This Belt Buckle Guy.
My god this is funny!!!!
February 26th, 2003 at 9:13 am
How about the “Yeah, You’re A Smart Chick And All So I’ll Listen To You, But At The End Of The Day We Both Know That I’m Going To Be Right” Guy?
February 26th, 2003 at 10:45 am
Oh, Trash. A friend of mine is married to That Guy. He is also I’m A Man, Which Means I Know More About Music, Guy. You know, also known as, You’ll Never Understand My Relationship With REM Guy.
February 26th, 2003 at 10:53 am
Oh, good grief, we would completely have included You’ll Never Understand My Relationship With REM Guy, had we thought of him. He’s the soul brother of Hold My Hand And You Will Practically Hear The Pulsating Rhythms Of The Urban Street Despite The Fact That I Have Never Had A Paying Job Unless You Count Work Study And Yet I Have Never So Much As Gone Without Air Conditioning Guy.
February 26th, 2003 at 9:00 pm
Oh, I totally hate You’ll Never Understand My Relationship With REM Guy (although they seem to be less prevelent than they were in the 80’s). But I don’t hate him as much as I hate his cousin I’m A Very Complicated Person Guy.
February 28th, 2003 at 1:04 am
Don’t forget about the lives with his parents and watches Spongebob all day guy
February 28th, 2003 at 7:58 am
I was thinking this morning that the only guy worse than any of these guys is Morrissey Speaks to Me, but Not to You Guy. It took a long time for me to feel comfortable making fun of that guy, because he’s so sad, isn’t he? Good ol’ Vaguely, Britishly Gay Guy At the Cemetery Gates…
February 28th, 2003 at 6:17 pm
Tyler: I think I’M that guy. Except it’s “Samurai Jack” and I don’t live with my parents. Still. Allison: I hate that conversation, but that particular guy is not usually That Guy unless he’s made a career out of positioning the Once Bitten Twice Shy shtick as Alleviate My Psychic Pain With Oral Sex Guy. If that made any sense.
Hee.
March 1st, 2003 at 2:24 pm
How about the: I Just Want to be Friends, With Benefits guy?
I hate that guy.
March 1st, 2003 at 9:47 pm
Oh, but what about I’ve Got A Low-Level Job, No Friends And A Copious Collection Of Porn, But I Still Think I’m Superior To You, Even Though I Dropped Out Of College With Two Classes Left Guy?
March 1st, 2003 at 10:39 pm
Y’know I think I’ll save this, just so I can have a read and manage to hit on exactly which he is when for some strange, not quite identifiable reason, he’s being That Guy.
Oh, and: I’ve Said ‘Sorry’, As In The Singular Word ‘Sorry’ And Therefore You Have No Basis To Be Angry At Me So Now We’re Over It And Are You Still Harping On About That, Guy.
(Y’know maybe that one’s just my damage. Sorry. Now I’m That Guy)
March 1st, 2003 at 11:15 pm
Oh, what a brillant list! Don’t forget I’m Actually Gay So I Overcompensate By Saying I Want To Date All The Models In Your Elle Magazine Guy.
Ew! And give me back my magazine!
March 2nd, 2003 at 12:37 am
I went on some dates with a guy that I thought liked me, but he turned into I Know I’m Really Hot And All My Ex-Girlfriends Are Models But I Am Really, Really Deep And I Wish That Someone, Although Someone Better Looking Than You, Could See How Profound I Am Guy.
What a bummer.
March 2nd, 2003 at 11:43 am
With all fairness, we cannot omit It’s Acceptable For Me To Be Moody And Unpredictable Because I’m A Victim Of Life Guy. Because, after all, if he were left out it would only perpetuate the continued injustice that he alone bears.
March 2nd, 2003 at 1:43 pm
And we can’t forget I’m Really Laid Back Guy, who is really just I’m Lazy And Won’t Make Any Effort But Still Expect You To Have Sex With Me Guy in disguise. I hate That Guy!
March 2nd, 2003 at 3:08 pm
Personally, I’m getting a little tired of Sure We Went Out A Few Times, But That Doesn’t Mean That I Have To Speak To You Ever Again Guy. In addition, I was at a party last night with eight different variations on I Have A Degree In Fine Arts So Don’t Talk To Me About Your “Sketches” Guy. One of them also showed a leaning towards the I’m Going To Check On My Friend Puking In The Bathroom, But Only So I Can Find Out Where He Put The Weed Guy. I fucking hate That Guy.
March 3rd, 2003 at 11:42 am
Let me give you all a heads up on that I’m Rampantly Insecure and Over-Therapied And YOU Have Walls Up Because You Got Weirded Out That I Left You Four Emails Telling You I Missed You And Was Worried About You Guy - after you’ve gone out a total of once, and you didn’t respond to his email because you were out of town for the weekend.
He’s a close cousin to My Years of Therapy And General Self-Absorption Allow Me To Frequently Analyze Your Behavior Or Opinions In A Completely Condescending Manner And Say You’re Defensive If You Disagree With My Assessment Guy.
March 3rd, 2003 at 2:00 pm
I went out with Living In My Parents Basement is a Financial Thing Even Though I Graduated Last Year and Work in A Computer Store Guy combined with I Have A Psych Degree So I Know What’s Really The Matter With You And It’s Not The Fact That I Was Hitting On Some Chick For Two Hours Last Night Guy once.
There was also You Obviously Have Issues With Men and Intimacy Because You Won’t Let Me Touch Your Boobs Guy. I beat that out of him though.
March 3rd, 2003 at 2:23 pm
I HATE Therapy Guy. Almost as much as I’m Not Really A Snob I Just Happened To Grow Up Privileged Guy, a close relative to I’m Going To Impress You With My Cooking And Wine Selection Until You Discover They Only Entail Overdone Beef Wellington And $12 Merlot From Trader Joe’s Guy.
March 3rd, 2003 at 10:50 pm
So, I was totally laughing my a** off until I read about “Gets All His Current Events Information From Watching Fox News While Eating Froot Loops Guy”– because That Guy IS my boyfriend …. and then I was just sad, because its so so true.
Nonetheless, Sars, Alli, and Regina, y’all are delightful and witty. Thanks for all the laughter-filled hours of internet time-wasting. Three cheers.
March 4th, 2003 at 12:55 pm
Oh My God! For six months, I dated I Don’t Even Own A TV, I’ve Never Eaten Junk Food, I Never Watch Hollywood Movies And I Only Read Age Of Enlightenment Literature. In French. Guy. I’m a slow learner. Our final get-together, I finagled him into watching the pilot episode of The Sopranos with me. He seemed to really enjoy it — we were laughing at all the same lines) but when it was over he said, “Well that was mildly entertaining” and bolted from the house. I never even got a chance to confess that I was watching Joe Millionnaire and American Idol!
March 4th, 2003 at 1:29 pm
Heh, straight women always come across as “haters”, Sars, cause you have to deal with That Guy all the time.
As a lesbian I only really know two kinds of guys: Super-fun, woman-friendly, power shopping, gossip-mongering, I blew the pizza delivery dude, gay guy and Bonded with my girlfriend over seriously boring music ephemera, have you met my wife? guy.
Thanks for telling me all about That guy!
March 4th, 2003 at 1:33 pm
Whoops, I forgot all about You’re gay? So of course you wanna come home with me and my girlfriend and fulfill all my predictable fantasies guy. I haven’t run into that guy in quite a while.
March 4th, 2003 at 4:26 pm
Dude every guy has some of those qualities. That is what makes us men. If you hate all of those “guys” then good luck with being a lesbian.
March 4th, 2003 at 11:10 pm
Um…Insert your own That Guy comment here….
March 5th, 2003 at 9:29 am
Oh! Oh! What about “I listen to NPR, Vote Republican and think Your Democratic Views on Welfare are Soooo Cute!” That Guy? He annoys the crap out of me, and I’m dating him. Some days, it’s a trial not to stab him with a fork and become “I Killed It Myself” That Girl.
Ya’ll are brilliant, and I love you both for making me giggle.
March 5th, 2003 at 4:11 pm
Everyone, please give a warm welcome to Your Reasonable Objections To My Behavior Make You An Uptight Lesbian — Oh, And By The Way, In My World, “Lesbian” Is Still An Insult Guy…a.k.a. “Heath.”
March 5th, 2003 at 5:17 pm
Not meant as an insult. It’s more along the lines of “you don’t like any of the personality traits or insecurities that make up a man so you will probably end up a lesbian girl”
or a really frustrated, lonely, bitter woman.
March 5th, 2003 at 7:06 pm
Oh, “good one.”
March 6th, 2003 at 8:39 am
Seriously, Heath. You’re being about 12 Guys. I started out as a man-hating lesbian (not so much the former as the latter), and then ended up marrying I Can Reconstruct Neal Peart’s Drumset Guy anyway.
Believe me, all girls are That Girl, and all guys are That Guy to some degree. It’s only when they let their darker traits come to the surface during light, witty discussions about the opposite sex that they really become THAT GUY.
Ahem. You bastard.
March 6th, 2003 at 3:23 pm
Being any one of “That Guys” is preferable to being any one of “That Girls”
-Take me out for dinner, I can’t eat anything but endive, but only if they are in season girl
-THE ONLY WAY I KNOW TO GET YOU TO LOVE ME IS TO ALTERNATELY PUKE AND STARVE MYSELF THINNER THAN A PENCIL LEAD GIRL
-I just scheduled 36 hours of activities for each 24 hours of the next 7 days, why am I so busy where has all my time gone girl?
-Does this make me look fat, oh why do you hate me so girl…….
-I know I can cook BLENDER WITHOUT A TOP ALL OVER THE KITCHEN GIRL
-Don’t know east from west so I’m just going to drive my car behind the bus to where I’m going girl
-If you don’t know WHAT’s WRONG I’m NOT GOING TO TELL YOU GIRL,
-I TOLD YOU SPECIFICALLY NOT TO GET ME ANYTHING AND YOU DIDN”T AND NOW I’m PISSED GIRL.
-I WENT OUT OF TOWN AND CALLED YOU DRUNK FROM A PARTY AND EXPECT YOU TO BE FAITHFUL TO ME GIRL
-I”VE CANCELLED THE LAST SEVEN DATES AND YOU NEVER TAKE ME ANYWHERE YOU DON’T LOVE ME GIRL
-I’m ON A DIET TONIGHTS MENU THREE BOXES OF GIRL SCOUT COOKIES, ONE HALF GALLON OF CHOCOLATE CHIP MOCHA ICE CREAM, TOMORROW NIGHT MORE OF THE SAME WHY CAN’T YOU HELP ME GIRL.
-I’m SO INDEPENDENT and STRONG I SPEND HALF THE DAY CRYING IN THE BATHROOM BECAUSE NOBODY LIKES ME WOMAN.
-I’m IN SO MUCH PAIN FROM MY PERIOD YOU”LL NEVERT UNDERTAND IT BUT NOT IN ENOUGH PAIN TO STAND HERE AND BE A TOTAL BITCH AND ARGUE FOR AN HOUR GIRL
-I CAN SUPPORT MYSELF, I don’t need anyone, I’m SO BITTER IN THIS DEADEND JOB GIRL, why can’t I find a husband to make me money girl.
-THIS GLASS-CEILING IS HOLDING ME BACK, EVERY OTHER WOMAN AT MY JOB IS A USELESS PILE OF CRAP WHO DOESN”T DESERVE THE JOB THEY HAVE WOMAN
-I’m never going to talk to you again, I Hate, you why doesn’t anyone love me girl.
-I think 2% milk means I have to drink 50 CUPs to get my full RDA girl
-Don’t you dare ever call me and interrupt me at work you’ll get me fired, but if I call you at your work you’d better give an hour of your time GIRL.
-Spend all my money, run up the credit card, get a loan, wonder why no man will take me seriously or think I’m responsible woman, girl
-MY DADDY ABUSED ME ALL MEN ARE VIOLENT AND THAT GIVES ME EVERY RIGHT TO ABUSE THEM FIRST BECAUSE I KNOW THEY ARE JUST GOING TO ABUSE ME GIRL.
-I CAN DISH IT OUT IN BUTTLOADS BUT I’M A GIRL BUT YOU CAN”T DISH ANYTHING BACK BECAUSE I’m A GIRL, GIRL
March 6th, 2003 at 11:22 pm
Wow, this is the funniest thing ever. I’m glad I long since gave up on dating, though when I did it was always obscure Guys, such as: I’m A Devout Catholic So I Can’t Kiss You If You’re Wearing Your Pentacle, But I’d Like To Talk You Into Premarital Sex Anyway Guy.
March 7th, 2003 at 2:16 pm
Oh holy moly, the truth comes out. I’m gonna be stuck in self-analysis for weeks now, wondering whether I’m an “It’s Nice That You’d Vote For John Edwards To Show Your Liberalism, But I’m A Registered Green and Don’t Regret My Vote for Nader in 2000 Guy,” or an “I Love Hanging Out With You While You Watch Me Play Xbox Games Guy,” or “Take Care of Me When I’m Sick But If You Get Sick Just Drink Lots of Fluids Guy.” I laughed so hard at this that I spilled salsa all over my Dockers. Then I stopped laughing.
March 8th, 2003 at 4:25 pm
This is very funny, you guys are great. Even though we seem like haters, some of us are married. It’s the ones we met before that, like She’s An Old Girlfriend And We’re Just Friends Now, Oops I Forgot That I Was Actually In Love With Her For The Whole Time I Dated You But Now I Remember Guy, or his cousin I Know I Wanted This Relationship To Be Casual But What Do You Mean You’re Dumping Me For A Serious Relationship Guy. Last but not least there’s the standby from high school and university the I Think You’re Very Attractive, But You Have A Disability So I Could Never Date You Guy. They were all SO much fun.
March 10th, 2003 at 3:32 am
Nice pants you’re wearing.
March 10th, 2003 at 4:26 pm
Please don’t forget the I DUMPED YOU, BUT NOw NEED TO REVISIT PAST GIRLFRIENDS TO MAKE MYSELF HEALTHY FOR CURRENT GIRL that I am MOST LIKELY going to MARRY.
HATE THAT GUY!
March 11th, 2003 at 12:14 am
I just broke up with the ultimate ‘THAT GUY’ - the ‘YOU’RE PERFECT AND I LOVE YOU TO DEATH BUT I’M AFRAID OF COMMITMENT SO I’M TELLING YOU THAT I HAVE TO BE ALONE SO THAT I CAN DO SOME SOUL SEARCHING AND GET MY SHIT TOGETHER’ guy.
*Sigh*
March 11th, 2003 at 12:42 am
Oh, my. That is superb. I just broke up with I Only Tell You How Much You Suck For Your Own Good Guy.
Now I am Rebound Girl. Le sigh.
March 11th, 2003 at 9:11 am
Heyyy… you sound just like “Wanna Blowjob? It’s Yours If You Listen To Two Hours Of Bitching And Moaning” Girl!
Nice work, got me smilin’!
Loz
March 11th, 2003 at 3:05 pm
Ooh, just remembered one: I Use My Accent to Get Laid Guy. Doesn’t matter what the accent is - as long as it lets him “get [his] foot in the door” (direct quote), it’s all good. Feh. I’ll bet he goes home and speaks fluent newscasterese.
March 13th, 2003 at 6:32 am
Loving it! Certain ex boyfriend has turned into I’m Engaged To A 16 Yr Old But She’s Really Mature Guy and also Hello ExGirlfriends Mother Would You Like to Buy Into My Pyramid Scheme/Telemarketing Deal Guy.
I dont get:
‘I WENT OUT OF TOWN AND CALLED YOU DRUNK FROM A PARTY AND EXPECT YOU TO BE FAITHFUL TO ME GIRL’
If I call my boyfriend drunk from an out of town party, I expect him to still be faithful to me. Why not?
March 18th, 2003 at 12:48 pm
I’m a little late to the party but I’m married to “Niel Pert is the greatest songwriter alive guy”, and I dated the I love Japaname because it makes me so different and it consumates my love for wanting to be a vampire and blood-sucking goth I’ve got issues guy.
My favorite from my college days was “I know you have a crush on me but I’m calling you cause my room-mate likes you, I’m actually way too cool for you” guy.
This coming from the “sit on the couch and critique Samarai Jack, why does he always end up in his underwear anyway?” girl.
March 28th, 2003 at 4:02 pm
I’m even later to the party, but man, where was the Field Guide to That Guy when I was a hapless undergraduate? I could have learned to spot Much-Too-Late Confession Of Past Love That Only Appeared To Be Complete Boredom Guy ahead of time instead of after the ambush. His best friend You’re Far Too Good For Me So I Can’t Possibly Date You Guy, sadly, makes regular appearances in my life to this day.
I would also like to report a recent sighting of the rare subspecies French Gore-Tex Vegetarian On A Bicycle Guy.
April 1st, 2003 at 4:42 pm
Thankfully, I am now happily married to I Love You and All of Your Quirks and Just Want to Eat Good Food and Go To Baseball Games and Adopt Lots of Cats With You For The Rest Of Our Lives Guy, but on the road to him I had to slog through:
> I Don’t Really Like You But I Know You Really Like Me So I’m Going To Take Advantage of Your Hormonally Wacked-Out Emotions and Have Sex With You But Never Be Your Boyfriend Guy (senior year of hgh school)
> You Don’t Understand How Stressful Pledging a Fraternity Is Guy (freshman year of college)
> My Extensive Silences and Apparent Lack of Emotion Were Masking a Deep Love For You, Which I’m Going To Tell You About Two Years After The Fact Guy (sophomore year of college)
> Even Though You’re Sitting On the Side of My Bed Crying I Still Can’t Force Myself to Have A Conversation About Our Relationship Because I “Have Nothing To Say”, So Can’t We Just Smoke Another Bowl? Guy (junior year of college)
> Extremely Nice and Caring And Sweet But Possibly More Feminine Than Me and Who Didn’t Challenge Me and With Whom I Had Zero Sexual Chemistry Guy (year after college)
> followed almost immediately by Nice and Caring Guy’s friend, Totally Intellectually Stimulating But Lacking Emotional Warmth Guy
followed by brief brief flings with Aren’t I Impressing You With My Obscure French Music? Guy and What Do You Mean You Don’t Agree That Billy Joel Is a Musical Genius? Guy.
But the happy ending is that Smoke Another Bowl Guy grew up to become Love You and All of Your Quirks Guy, and he’s a champion relationship-discusser now, able to work through everything from petty spats to deep issues in a single bound. So, That Guy can change into a better Guy. And to be fair, throughout those various relationships, I was possibly:
> Willing to Ignore The Fact That I Was Being Used Girl
> Just Looking For A Practice Boyfriend Because I Never Had One in High School and Not Being Too Picky Girl
> Too Insecure to Demand More Emotional Return Especially Since I Felt I Was Inordinately Lucky To Be Dating The Cool Guy in the Cool Band On Campus Girl
> Clearly Not Over Being Raised an Only Child and Having Some Serious Giving and Sharing and Independence Issues Girl
> Sowing My Wild Oats With Not Much Care for Anyone Else’s Feelings Even Though I Know Down Deep That Dating A Guy’s Friend After I Just Dumped Him Isn’t The Coolest Thing to Do Girl
…..Nah, screw it. It was all their faults.
April 8th, 2003 at 1:47 pm
how about “I Am Twenty Years Old And My Mom Still Does All My Laundry Guy”
and
“You Can Take Care of Me While I Puke-up The Too Many Beers I Drank, But I Won’t Remember It, And Therefore I Won’t Thank You For Your Tenderness and Genuine Fear For My Life Guy”
May 14th, 2003 at 2:06 pm
“I Am Twenty Years Old And My Mom Still Does All My Laundry Guy”
Also known as “Elijah Wood.”
May 19th, 2003 at 12:42 am
oh no! you mean that im the only one who has run into a…
I dress myself daily in impeccably clean armani suits but have no job nor reason to do so unless you count frequenting local coffe shops and the like dazzling unsuspecting women-and men with my clearly successful style of living in order to attain false respect as well as ensnaring monetary and sexual prospects even tho i really live in my parents suburban home that they had to move from because i would not get a job as i am in fact a well read and articulate sociopath with a myriad of other character disorders that alternetely passes himself off as investment banker, hatchet man and hints darkly of living a secret life of crime in order to intrigue women with clear cut self esteem and father-issues but im really just a frustrated city guy stuck in the burbs tho in reality i am here because my only source of income are the boarders that i fill my parents home with without which i would be living in a refrigerator carton where i belong guy?
May 19th, 2003 at 12:41 pm
I’m Too Focused on My Tragic Soccer Game to Pay Any Attention to You Because the Game Is An Allegory for How the Poor & Downtrodden of the World Have Been Overrun By Corporate Avarice and Greed Guy
I’m More Mature & Smarter Than You, Even Though I Make Less, Have a Lousy, No-Future Job, and Live In An Apartment the Size of a Cereal Box Guy
I’m Too Cool For This Scene Even Though I Love the Beatles and Drive a Volvo Guy
Man-Of-The-World, Going Places, Working At a Hotel I Can’t Afford to Stay In Guy
My Tweed Jacket Is a Fashion Statement and I Like the Way It Flaps In the Wind Like a Cape When I’m On My Bike Guy
May 27th, 2003 at 1:08 am
I must admit, the original entry was rather amusing and intelligent. However, half of these subsequent entries miss the whole point. The authors simplify many guys into a poignant description by their habits and behaviors, not by single events or one annoying characteristic. A similar list could be just as easily constructed to describe women in the manner that all of these users have ascribed to. The original authors did shed some light on the inherent provinciality and simplicity within some men. However, lets not submit too many people to one liners without recognizing our own summational qualities. But I suppose you all need to indulge.
May 29th, 2003 at 2:15 pm
Let me first say, I’m embarassed by the Johnson King - who seems That Too Angry To Be Witty and May Have Women Issues Guy who attempted to rebut this article. He doesn’t quite get it, does he?
Let me second say, I’ve met many of the That Guys on this list in Female form.
In the coffee shops I’ve hung out with Self-Consciously Offbeat Girl (a.k.a. The Camill Paglia Worshiper or “Britney Spears is the REAL Punk Rock!”) and Oh, I Don’t Watch TV Girl. Coffee shops are full of the last girl - if NoTV Girl discovers you merely own a TV you’re That TV Guy, even if you have an MA in literature. She is a subset of I Went To Italy On My Parents’ Credit Card For Two Weeks, And Now I’m A Fascist About Olive Oil And Can’t Consider Funyuns A “Valid” Snack, Even Ironically, Girl. In the same neighborhood I’ve encountered Girl With A Strange Preoccupation With Bashing The Gap, and Girl Who Thinks The Biggest Problem Facing Today’s Progressive Is Gendered Pronouns. They hang with DiFranco Tourette’s Girl, who not only plays Ani 24/7 but also sings along in exact (if tuneless) mimicry, down to the singer’s gasps between words. They avoid My Obscure and Painful No Wave Band Collection Girl.
I don’t go to Starbucks, so I miss out on Yelling At Some Poor Assistant On The Cel While She Takes The Day Off Girl, or I Know the Thread Count of Every Dress I See, But Not The Name of My Congressman Girl (a dumber version of Can’t Order A Drink Without Consulting Paper To What Is Still Cool This Week Girl).
In bars I’ve met The I’ll Pick A Fight With You Because Boys Find That Intersting Girl, who transformed into You Ignored My Offer Of Sex So I’ll Say You’re Gay Girl. Bitter, Jaded, Bad Poet Who Thinks “Seduction” Means “Reaming Out A Man’s Ear With Your Tongue” Girl reverts to Are You Gay Girl if you wipe your ear, since men are so easy turned on it must be homosexuality and not a lack of technique. While at the bar let’s wave to Has No Sense Of Humor About Getting Salsa On Her Dress Girl.
I’ve been at parties with Always Stoned But I’m Cute So It’s Okay Girl, who is usually carving a hash pipe out of potato while she sits on the couch next to Drunk But I’m Cute and Whacked On Something Really Scary But Cute. They pointedly ignore I Was Cute, But Now I’m Just Bitter And Addicted Girl and I’m Only Outdoorsy Because It Prevents Me From Freaking Out About My Aging Body Girl.
For some reason parties, not bars, are where one finds I Say I’m A Bitch, Therefore I Can ACT Like An Bitch Girl, not to be confused with I’m An Bitch Who Can’t Love, Maybe If I Met A Real Man Which You Are SO Not Girl. She’s also the Just Being Blunt! Every Tactless Utterance Is Cool If It Is “Honest” Gal. Oddly, if you ask her out, one often get an umdate (as an “Um, is this a date or what?”) with I Don’t Know Where You Got The Impression I Really Liked You When All Said Was I Really Liked You Girl. Usually B. Girl is at the party with the Elizabeth Wurtzel Is Right About A Lot Of Stuff Girl, who is not as scary as the Dworkin Rules Do You Wanna Kiss Me Girl.
Also at the party is I’m Not Ignorant, Just Not Into “Guy Stuff” Girl - “Oh, you geek out about (computers, math, politics, etc.) with the other boys - I’ll be over here talking girl stuff.” She can always be found in conversation with the ever present Isn’t That Just Like A Man Girl, sometimes going by Women Have Flaws But Men Just Suck Girl.
Hanging with the guys is All My Friends Are Men Girl, who is sisters with Other Women Don’t Like Me For Some Reason Girl and Some Women Are Just Asking For It Girl (a.k.a. Republican Girl). In another corner, My Dog Is Not Mean Just Misunderstood Girl and Quantum Physics Reminds Me Of A Story About My Cat Girl are talking to no one, longing to be home with the only things they care about.
I’ve gone out with Celebs I Find Hot Is Appropriate First Date Conversation Girl who fixed me up with the Talks About My Ex and Talks About How Much I Hate My Parents On The First Date Girls. And, of course, Therapy Girl - who has subcategories too numerous to list here.
I’ve had relationships with Talks To Her Ex On Her Cell Phone Four Times A Day Girl (”What? I’m friends with my exes - is this a problem?”) who shares DNA with Answers the Cell Phone Even If Making Out Girl. I’ve agonized over my flings with Seperated But No Divorce Gal, who rooms with I’m Not Looking For A Boyfriend, But I Expect To Be Treated Like A Girlfriend Girl. They go shop with Men Can’t Be Plantonic So Drop Your Female Friends Girl a.k.a. He’s Just A Friend Girl (actually He’s Just A Friend With Priveleges Girl). They avoid The Many Men Who Dig My Irresistible Ass Make Up My Crown Of Thorns Girl, but they like Has A Specific Gift List Yet Gives You Some Shirt She Likes Girl.
When things ended I met Is Okay With The Breakup At The Time, Then Holds It Over You Forever Girl, who was also, oddly enough, Breakup With You By Doing Something She’d Call Unforgivable And Perhaps Misogynist If Done To Her Girl.
Most girls, like most men, do not realize they are the biggest That Guy categories - That Guy So Busy Busting on the Faults of Others She/He Doesn’t Realize She/He IS That Guy.
June 4th, 2003 at 1:10 pm
While I admit this is all quite amusing, as a guy who pretty much has always been the “he’s my best friend and I bawl on his shoulder after every break up” guy, I have always wondered - why get together with that guy in the first place? I can see he’s bad for you, so can others, but what sucks you into the black hole of his ego? It’s always a mystery to me why a woman/girl needs someone to be happy. I say be happy by yourself, then find someone. 2 screwups don’t make a whole.
June 19th, 2003 at 6:32 pm
Somewhere along the way, you managed to completely skip over What Do You Mean I Completely Failed To Mention That? My Life Is An Open Book Guy.
The one who seems to think that the morning after your first date, UPS just drops off a novel to be memorized containing his life story, the plans for his trip out of town, the names of all his close friends and family, and a warning about his wheat allergy.
July 2nd, 2003 at 3:00 pm
Like any guy reading this, I’m trying to figure out which Guy I am. Maybe many of them.
But I’ll only admit to being Has No Sense of Humor About Getting Salsa on His Pants Guy, and I will defend That Guy’s honor to the end (although the end of what, I can’t say). It’s not funny; it’s salsa, and it stains forever. Plus, to everybody else That Guy encounters while he’s wearing salsa-stained pants, he becomes “Is That Blood on His Crotch? Guy.” So, no. No sense of humor about that whatsoever.
And, since I’m so uptight about this, I suppose it’s justice that I married “Spills Everything on Her Shirt and Doesn’t Even Notice, Much Less Care Girl.”
July 7th, 2003 at 1:38 pm
In response to “a minor point”:
Yeah, a lot of the people wrote about a That Guy based on “single events or one annoying characteristic”. But that’s not any less valid than making a That Guy by “simplify[ing] many guys into a poignant description by their habits and behaviors”. It’s fun to read the replies and go “Yes! Exactly! Omigod, I didn’t know anybody else knew That Guy too!” when you read about a very specific That Guy.
PS - Ever hear the saying about the short simple words being the best?
July 8th, 2003 at 12:40 am
What’s wrong with rugby?
July 8th, 2003 at 12:13 pm
Oh, Lordy. I just made a lunch date with Acts Really Normal About Your Breakup At The Time, Then Holds It Over You For The Rest Of Your Natural Goddamn Lives Guy (it was ten freaking years ago, we need to clear the air here!). This particular specimen also has very strong I Don’t Own A TV But Can Recite Entire Episodes Of Obscure 1970s Sitcoms Because I Am So Ironic Guy and You Can’t Really Be Reading That Bestseller When I Lent You The Collected Works Of Proust In French Guy tendencies…
On the up side, he’s the only person in the world who laughs at my Latin puns, and I was quite desperately in love with him at one point, so I still have a soft spot for him. Even though I doubt we’ll get through lunch without fighting.
By the way, has anyone else sighted You’re A Nice Girl And It’s Been Fun But I Can’t Marry Outside My Faith Guy? (not the same That Guy as above). That’s a kick in the teeth for you.
July 9th, 2003 at 2:04 pm
People who are into traditional monogamous dating probably don’t run into this very often, but for those of us who aren’t, there is always All Women Are Really Bisexual And If You Say You’re Straight You’re Really In Denial And Probably Homophobic Guy. This really means, I Want Two Women At Once Every Day Forever And Ever Oh Boy I’ll Be Such A Stud Guy. Sickeningly, his wife is frequently the same way.
July 10th, 2003 at 1:20 pm
What about Constantly Asks Why On Earth You Would Want To Go Out With Such A Pathetic Stupid Loser Like Him, Just So That You Will Continually Give Him Compliments Guy? That Guy bugged a lot. He was also Let’s Conduct All Meaningful Conversations About Our Relationship Through Email Because I Can’t Deal With Actually Talking About Serious Issues Without Checking What A Dozen Internet Sites Have To Say About It.
Of course, then he was followed by Let’s Spend All Our Time Together Locked In My Room Making Out Because We Never Need To Meet Each Other’s Friends, Go Anywhere, Or Do Anything Else Guy. Which is fun for about a week, but then starts to get really old.
July 11th, 2003 at 11:39 pm
Oh my. I know music and guys have been mentioned but I’ve dated “Dave Matthews is a god guy” twice! Fool me once, shame on me…
July 13th, 2003 at 10:08 pm
Can’t forget Listen To My Super-Cool Imitation Of Sean Connery Again, Even Though I Can Only Do One Line And You’ve Already Heard It 4 Bazillion Times Guy.
July 13th, 2003 at 10:15 pm
Ooh! Ooh! I have a few:
I’ve Never Been In A Relationship Before So It’s Not My Fault If I Jerk You Around Guy
How Dare You Watch Foreign Films Dubbed, Not Subtitled, You Philistine Guy (a subset of which is the You Must Recognize the Ultimate Genius of Japanese Animation Guy)
You Want To Play Video Games, Isn’t That Cute Guy (closely related to We Can Talk In A Second, I Have To Finish This Level Guy)
I Am Master Of My Emotions Guy (he LIES! HE LIES!)
Of course, in all fairness, I have been:
Makes Comments More Cryptic Than A Military Code And Then Gets Mad When You Don’t Understand Girl
Puts Up With Endless Rambling/Refuses To Assert Herself In Hopes Of Getting Sex At Some Point Girl
I Can Hit You Because I’m A Girl And It’s Okay If I Do It Girl (ugh… *shudder*)
and I have encountered:
No, Really, Honey, Do What You Want, I’ll Just Give You A Massive Guilt Trip So We End Up Doing What I Want Girl
I Have Massive Issues But I Can’t Get Therapy Because I Just Know It Wouldn’t Work, So I’ll Just Take It Out On You Girl
And, finally, the most painful:
I Honestly Think Everyone Is Bisexual, Except Me, Even Though I Grabbed You And Kissed You But It’s Okay Because I’m Drunk And Really Cute Girl (aaagh! you FIEND! why must you torment me!)
I want to be Sars when I grow up.
July 20th, 2003 at 2:39 am
How about You’d Be So Much Better-Looking If You Wore More Make-Up Guy? I was dumb enough to date two of them at university.
Of course, I was getting my just desserts for being Yes I’m A Computer Science Major So Let Me Rant At You About The Issues Women Face In Computer Science Even Though I Don’t Really Face Them Myself Girl, which I grew into when I had to stop being No TV For Me Girl (because I started watching TV).
July 21st, 2003 at 12:07 am
Or, I’m A Feminist. Naomi Wolf Would Have More Credibility If She Wore Makeup Guy?
July 28th, 2003 at 5:04 am
*grumble* My new guy is starting to turn into I Won’t Ask For What I Want But I’ll Resent You When I Don’t Get It Guy. I hate that guy.
August 27th, 2003 at 12:37 pm
“Constantly Asks Why On Earth You Would Want To Go Out With Such A Pathetic Stupid Loser Like Him, Just So That You Will Continually Give Him Compliments Guy?”
Aaah! Aaah! I have so dated like, three of those guys. I think I need help.
December 11th, 2003 at 6:59 pm
Of course you know for every “That Guy” there’s a “That Girl” equivilant. Being an asshole is a universally human quality. If you’ve dated so many awful people one after the other your entire life, maybe there’s something even more seriously wrong with you.
February 26th, 2004 at 3:58 pm
Wow, this is hilarious. I am really late to the table here, but I’m glad I found it anyway. If only I had stumbled upon this earlier, before I went out with Let’s Watch “Lord of the Rings” At My Apartment In Lieu Of A Real Date And I’ll Cook For You In The Hopes That You’ll Think It’s Sweet And Not That It’s Because I Am Broke As A Joke Guy. Who I was also disappointed to realize was I’ll Have Sex With You And Tell You I Really Like You But Soon Stop Treating You Like A Girlfriend And Start Treating You Like Just A Friend In The Hopes That I Will Avoid Breaking Up With You Guy. He also had shades of I’ve Got A Low-Level Job, No Friends And A Copious Collection Of Porn, But I Still Think I’m Superior To You, Even Though I Dropped Out Of College With Two Classes Left Guy and I’ve Never Been In A Relationship Before So It’s Not My Fault If I Jerk You Around Guy. But then again, I was I’ll Date You Even If I Know We Have Next To Nothing In Common Because I’m Lonely And You Happen To Be Really Great In The Sack Girl.
February 26th, 2004 at 9:52 pm
Aw man, Lizz, I would KILL for Let’s Watch “Lord of the Rings” At My Apartment And I’ll Cook For You Guy. That’s a fuckin awesome date.
At least, it’s more of a date than I’ve been getting from I Really Value Our Relationship But We’re Not “Dating” So Don’t Get Any Ideas, Except About Sex Guy.
February 27th, 2004 at 3:28 pm
I’ve read this so many times and it always makes me laugh, hard.
Unfortunatly, I think I’ve found myself dating I’ll Have Sex With You And Tell You I Really Like You But Soon Stop Treating You Like A Girlfriend And Start Treating You Like Just A Friend In The Hopes That I Will Avoid Breaking Up With You Guy. Whose cosmic twin is He Just Wants To Be As Honest As He Can! It’s not his fault! Nothing is his fault! He’s just being honest! He’s just Every Dickhead Thing I Say Is Okay As Long As It Comes From The Heart Guy! Who, despite - or perhaps because of - his claims of straightforwardness, shares half his DNA with I Don’t Know Where You Got The Impression That I Really Liked You When All I Did Was Tell You I Really Liked You Guy.
Kill me now.
March 1st, 2004 at 9:36 am
With the “Whole Foods” and “Ironic” guys, there’s also the I Hate The Government And “The Man” And How The Screw The Innocent Workers But I’m The Most Excited About The Extra Bucks In My Tax Return guy. Phet.
March 12th, 2004 at 4:42 pm
Deep down, I knew I had to be a That Girl, but I didn’t know which one. Then, I saw this:
“But then again, I was I’ll Date You Even If I Know We Have Next To Nothing In Common Because I’m Lonely And You Happen To Be Really Great In The Sack Girl.”
Shit.
Actually, I’m worse. I was I’ll Date You Even If I Know We Have Next To Nothing In Common *And I (Not So) Secretly Think I Could Do Way Better* Because I’m Lonely And You Happen To Be Really Great In The Sack Girl.
I suck.
And now I just turned into I Just Admit My Faults And Think That Makes It OK Even When I Have No Intention of Fixing Them Girl right before your eyes. Run for your lives, people!
May 29th, 2004 at 9:47 am
Sadly, my husband would admit to having dated many of Johnson King’s (see above post) That Girls. We bonded over our comparisons of miserable exes.
He traded in I Will Always Prefer My Abusive Ex Over You Because He’s Exciting Girl for me: Do Not Even Think About Trying To Converse With Me Before 9AM or Three Cups of Coffee Girl
I traded in If You Are Not Willing To Have Sex With Me One Hour After Painful Root Canal Surgery Then You Don’t Really Love Me Guy for my husband: Sure, I’ll Wash the Dishes. Can You Run to the Liquor Store? Guy.
I say everybody wins.
May 31st, 2004 at 2:20 pm
I once went out with That I Don’t Watch TV Guy, and That I Don’t Think Larry Sanders Is Funny But Dream On Is A Great Show Guy on consecutive nights, one weekend. It was hard to choose which was worse.
I am now happily married to a terrific guy, but I work with another I Don’t Watch TV Guy. I’d forgotten how That Guy has to bring up his virtuous television abstention every time someone mentions a TV show, actor, or commercial, or any word containing the letters “t” and “v.”
July 23rd, 2004 at 1:03 pm
Related to the most recent post, let me remove gender from the argument.
I have nothing but hate for the “Might be nice and normal but has no clue how to properly spell the word DEFINITELY” person.
Great posts, everyone. Just a pet peeve of mine that gets the blood pressure up. Do you hear an ‘A’ sound anywhere in the word? Enjoy your studio apartment…